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One of the things I have found to work in these kind of situations is prayer and meditation.
I always acknowledge and never suppress my natural inclination to retaliate.
I acknowledge that I am human, that I have emotions like anger, indignation, grief, sadness, fear...etc...
When someone violates my boundaries, I acknowledge that as a human-being it's natural for me to feel these things.
What is important to me and to God, is that I don't act out of these feelings in retaliation.
So how do I process them?
I use my journal.
CIR membership provides a great journalling tool.
I write about my feelings.
I may write a letter to the person, a poem, or even a vent. But I don't post it.
Usually when I acknowledge my feelings in this way I calm down.
Once in that calm state, I am able to pray, and focus on what is right.
I pray both for myself and for the other person.
I ask God to deliver our relationship from the negative grip of Satan.
Notice, I said I am not just praying for myself.
I am praying for OUR relationship in the spiritual and also in the physical realm.
I am asking for Jesus to intercede and remove Satan's influence from my relationship with the other person.
I then pray for myself, and ask God to help me grow stronger and more loving in Him. I ask for an anointing from The Holy Spirit, to intercede on my behalf in this and all my relationships.
Next I pray for that person, and ask God to heal them from all unrighteousness, and be restored to their true nature in Christ.
I then close with thanks giving for all those relationships in my life that are working well.
(I often find that many are, which I might be taking for granted.)
Usually by this time, something has shifted in the Spiritual realm for the better. I often notice also that in the material realm, the next time I am in touch with that person, things are better.
But even if that person has not changed, I have. Thank God.
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